Loading...
Home2022-05-13T14:37:16-04:00

The Safe Community Coalition & The Potomac School Present 

Julie Lythcott-Haims, NYT Best-Selling Author of How to Raise An Adult 

On April 26 the Safe Community Coalition and The Potomac School co-hosted a presentation by Julie Lythcott-Haims entitled “Throw Out the Checklisted Childhood: Tips and Strategies for Raising Successful Kids.” Former Stanford dean and New York Times bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult, Julie Lythcott-Haims explained why our culture of over-parenting is hurting our children and making them ill-equipped for adulthood.
In her presentation to parents, Julie illustrated the myriad ways that overparenting is damaging our kids, our relationships and our communities. She pointed out that our kids are anxious, depressed, self-harming, starving themselves and attempting (sometimes completing) at killing themselves. Julie discussed the research on overparenting and how it contributes to an increase in depression and anxiety with a decrease in executive functioning skills. Julie noted that overparenting takes on three forms: overprotection, fierce direction, and excessive hand holding. According to a study by Terri Lemoyne and Tom Buchanan, Julie shared in her How to Raise an Adult book, students with parents who “hover” or “helicopter” are more likely to be medicated for anxiety and/or depression. Julie pointed out that our children need to go through trial and error–and yes, fail–in order to develop agency (“I can”) and resilience (“I can cope”).

During her two visits Julie has gained a strong understanding of the challenges and concerns of the McLean community, and she was inspired to create for McLean a list of recommendations for parents to follow to prevent the harms of overparenting. She termed this list a 12 Step Parent Pledge which she urged the parents in attendance to adopt and to encourage their peers to heed as well. (Julie has since refined the Parent Pledge and sent out her newsletter explaining how she came to it.)

Take the Parent Pledge
0+
volunteers
0+
programs per year
0M
donated over time

LATEST NEWS & EVENTS

See what’s new with the SCC

Over the past 2 years, digital tools offered kids invaluable social lifelines and supported their #mentalhealth, but now that we’re in a new phase of the pandemic, many are finding it hard to ...reconnect IRL. Help yours find a healthy balance http://ow.ly/aO3Q50J1ChS

May is National Mental Health Awareness Month. Join us throughout the month and share our posts. Remember, your mental health is essential to your overall health.

If an interaction with your child leaves you feeling awful, tune in to that feeling. @ReenaNinan and I discuss why on this week's episode of @AskLisaPodcast.

Episode 81: Why is our kid so mean to ...us?

💚 May is #MentalHealth Acceptance Month - Join FCPS and @VApediatricians in calling attention to the mental health challenges facing children by participating in a Wear Green Day of Action on ...Friday, May 20.

See our mental health resources for students: http://bit.ly/3LutyAv

Load More...
VIEW PAST ISSUES OF “The SCCoop: Words on Wellness”

THE SCC THANKS ITS SUPPORTERS

JV Shiro Zavela Foundation     |    Arthur and Madeline Millman Foundation

OUR GOALS

VIEW ALL PROGRAMS

JOIN US

Sign up to volunteer or donate today!

VOLUNTEER
DONATE NOW
Go to Top